Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-5
Do you harbor grudges or resent?
Sometimes we think to ourselves, “wow, it’s really hard to love that person.” Maybe they wronged us or someone we love in some way and we keep holding onto that. What we don’t realize is how much energy we use on our resentment, and how that bitterness gets in the way of our relationship with God.
God always loves us, nothing can change that. It is a part of His nature and part of who He is. Whenever we act without love, and especially when we dwell on someone’s wrong and hold grudges, we are behaving exactly opposite to the way God acts. It breaks our connection with Him. Although He always loves us, we want to be able to fellowship with Him and that is difficult when we are doing things contrary to what He wants. We can’t say to our Father, “I love you, but I am doing something you really don’t like.”
How do we get past bad feelings for someone? Pray for them! When they come to mind, or we find ourselves dwelling on how they have wronged us, turn that into a prayer. Make sure you have forgiven them. Request blessings for them. Pray for their problems and difficulties. Ask God to show you ways to change your heart from a grudge to kindness. In other words, use prayer to begin to show love for them. Why waste time and emotion on resentment, when you can have the joy of love instead?!