Whoever would foster love covers over an offense, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends. – Proverbs 17:9
How do you act when a friend offends you? What do you do when they wrong you? As followers of Jesus we are called to show people the same forgiveness that God has shown us. We are equally loved by Him, and He cares for all of us with the same affection.
But sometimes we forgive and don’t forget. We may have accepted an apology or even gone out of our way to see it from the other person’s point of view. Yet we hold onto bitterness inside. We may go over and over in our minds how we have been mistreated. We pretend to show Godly love when we in fact carry resentment. This will eventually tear apart our friendships, and also push God’s love away from our hearts.
It is difficult to turn our thoughts away from this. Our pride takes over as our mind keeps repeating both the failings of others and how “badly” we have been treated. The solution is to find those things in ourselves where God really had to forgive us. We don’t recall them to wallow back to our guilt, but to relive that joy and praise from knowing He loves us. We ourselves are forgiven, and God doesn’t bring things back up. Rather, He chooses to completely forget about them and move on in love.
Let go of holding onto what you know is unloving. Forgive. And forget about it.