Whoever is patient has great understanding, but one who is quick-tempered displays folly. – Proverbs 14:29
How many times have you said, “That person gets angry quickly, I really respect them.”? No one has ever thought that!
We typically don’t like when someone gets mad even if they have good reason to, and certainly not if they are simply hot-headed. You can’t talk to someone like that, or reason with them. They say and do things they often regret later. We use terms like “blind rage” because anger causes us to lose sight of everything else.
Even in small amounts we can lose ourselves. We focus on being annoyed or upset. Instead, we should be looking at those moments or circumstances as God’s continual working in our lives. Faith will always overcome frustration. But more often the object of our agitation is someone else. They have wronged us so we harbor resentment, they do something to set us off, or they simply irritate us for no reason. This truly is folly. We are allowing someone else to control our joy, and we are not acting out of love and kindness.
In contrast, patience demonstrates compassion. It is love acting in a very visible and practical way. Think about the Lord’s patience in your own life. It is one of the ways He displays His love for us over and over. When we are patient we show “great understanding” because we acknowledge the importance of love and the working of God in our own life. If He does that for us, we should also do it for others.
Stop all the folly of getting mad. It looks foolish. Patience is smarter, and much more loving — which is what we are called to do.